She’s not getting the hint

So I ran into an old college friend of mine a few months ago…we were never friends back then but had mutual friends. Didn’t see her in years. She was super excited to see me and we found out we live quite close so she insisted we meet for coffee. I agreed, we did. It was an okay meeting…

…found out she’s going through some shit in life (no job etc) and while we bonded over working in the same industry and such, I found the conversation to be a bit one sided. She has really tried to ramp up our friendship FAST. I went out with her a few more times but I slowly realized she’s trauma dumping on me and that I don’t have the time for it. I feel bad for her but I am just not in a place where I want to listen to someone complain especially since I really do not know her all that well.

I’ve tried the slow fade, I tried cancelling, but she CALLS me all the time. She keeps tabs on when I am in the neighborhood through my stories and when I am coming back if I am travelling (for example, I will tell her I can’t meet as I am abroad and as soon as she sees that I am back she calls me).

I really thought she’d get the message by now….as I haven’t initiated a convo or a meeting with her ONCE.

I know that she’s the type of person that if I tell her I am not feeling this friendship that she might go full psycho on me. Please help!