Being on top

how the hell are yall riding your partner?? I feel like I suck at it, I can’t go fast which I like, my thighs feel in the way.. 😂 what are some basic universal things that work. Tbh I avoid getting on top but I’m trying to be better about it and be more confident in myself.

And receiving partners, is there a partner you’ve been with where you actually thought “this is not pleasurable and they’re doing a bad job” while they were on top of you or am I just in my head???