Trying to please my bi-curious wife with a Threesome.

Exploring Threesomes & Sharing My Wife-While Managing Emotions

Hey everyone,

My wife and I are in our 40s, been together over 20 years, have kids, and we're at a place in our marriage where we feel more connected than ever, especially after going through her recent breast cancer journey. It brought us closer and now we're exploring new experiences together, like every night.. were doing things more than we've ever done.

She's recently been embracing her bisexual side, and we've both talked about trying a threesome, either with a woman or a guy. We're introverts and very discreet (she’s a teacher), so we’re not sure where to even begin finding the right person or couple. We've messed around on Flingster, shared pics and videos on a private account, and she's done things like feet pics and sexting, which I’m surprisingly fine with and even find hot.

But here’s the more emotional side of it, I’m turned on by the idea of her with another man, but I also feel nervous. A lot of that stems from her having a thing with someone else early in our relationship before we were official.. like teenagers.. We've moved so far past that now and built something beautiful, but that small voice still lingers sometimes. I want to shut my brain off and stop looking backward.

So my questions are:

How do couples in similar situations stay safe (especially from STDs)?

How do you even meet others when discretion is crucial?

If you’re introverted, how do you get past the awkward stages of this?

How do you mentally let go of past baggage and enjoy seeing your partner embrace their sexuality?

Appreciate any insight. We’re not rushing anything, but we’re curious, excited, and trying to do it the right way..