People need to learn to handle themselves after trauma

If someone asks me these days "what kind of girl would you like" my answer is always that someone who's not fucked in the head and doesn't have hidden bpd or covert narcissism etc someone who's normal for god sakes, someone who isn't trauma ridden like crazy.

It's these trauma ridden people who hurt everyone they come in contact with and then go on to become terrible parents. I'm not saying they are sensitive or the things that happened with them aren't hurtful but you NEED to be able to recover from it. You CANNOT keep spiraling down into oblivion and drag other people down with you.

Getting crippling porn / smoke / drinking/hookup addiction due to WHATEVER reason don't make them justified. You can't keep on self loathing, you NEED to strengthen your mind, bad experiences WILL HAPPEN YOU NEED TO BREAK THE CYCLE, GET HELP, BREAK THE CYCLE STOP BLAMING EVERYONE NEAR YOU, BE BETTER.

Folks out here really doing misogyny due to not being able to find a date and women out here doing the same"All men are sex craved DEMONS"

Like PLEASE TAKE CARE OF YOUR MENTAL HEALTH, YOU NEEEEED TO BE STRONG MENTALLY, IMPENETRABLE. Don't expect someone to come into your life and fix it, no prince charming or the princess of the north can fix you, fucking don't spiral your mental state into shit.