Unplanned pregnancy in LDR

Posting on behalf of a non redditor friend:

I have been consistently dating my LDR partner for the past two years long distance. Overall, we were in and out of each other’s lives for 7 years. We initially lived in the same area and dated for the first couple years and then didn’t speak to each other for a while. I moved cross country during this time. There were a lot of issues in his very long term nesting partnership that made it difficult for our relationship to escalate in any capacity.

When we started dating again 5 years out, that nesting partnership was falling apart and soon ended. Our relationship became more consistent and we formed a LDR. And he’s spent a great deal of time processing the loss of that relationship and redefining who he is in these past two years since it ended.

We had began fluid bonding 2 years ago and at the time we discussed a hypothetical of pregnancy. He said if I got pregnant and we did not discuss this intentionally beforehand, he would want me to get an abortion, but he would ultimately take responsibility if I decided to keep it. I told him an intentional discussion wouldn’t matter as much to me, but that I also had no intention of carrying out any pregnancy at the time.

It’s two years later and I am now pregnant. It was not planned. We did not discuss hypotheticals recently. I was on BC, but it failed. And I want to keep the pregnancy.

We’re both in our late 30s. Both of us have said we want to become parents. Two years ago, I was in a different place. Now that I’m older and facing this decision I’m certain I want to follow through with this.

I’m extremely nervous about it though. I’m really not sure how we will respond. I imagine he will be nervous and scared. He’s been dating around these past few years and hasn’t been seeking an extremely escalated partnership since that big breakup he went through.

I plan to move back to the same area as him. This has always been the plan prior to the pregnancy. But, now it’s 100% certain.

Anyway, kind words, thoughts, encouragement might help my nerves.

Maybe someone has been through something similar?