Tank Tops Are Ok Now?

I came across something last night on Instagram that was SO triggering to me. I was a teen in the early 2000s and have been out since 2008. On Instagram last night I see a girl reviewing the new tank top garment. No issue with that, Looks like shoulders are no longer considered porn. That’s great.

The issue i have was in the comments. And from the looks of people this was members vs members in the comments. Of course this has struck a nerve in a lot of women, because of the toxic way modesty was taught to us as teenagers. they were voicing their opinion saying the church owes all of us an apology, sharing their stories of being kicked out of activities for porn shoulders, and how damaging it was to grow up feeling like your shoulders were an issue. BUT then you had all of these other women completely gaslighting. “That wasn’t the church that was members” “I’m sorry that was your experience that didn’t happen to me” “it was never doctrine you couldn’t show your shoulders” they just could not blame the church, all blame was focused on the people and it was their fault we grew up ashamed of our bodies. How many lessons, talks, general conferences where the topic was young women and modesty. How it was OUR responsibility to keep men from having bad thoughts. This happened. Idk if it’s cause I’ve been out so long and so disconnected now but OMG the brainwashing! They could NOT acknowledge their church did something wrong. Completely invalidating these women’s stories. It seems a lot of the gaslighting was coming from younger women who didn’t live through this. I’m glad to hear the topic of modesty is different now, but you can not erase previous generations of women and their experiences…so sad!