Women: do you feel turned off by guys splitting bills on the first date/Men: do you split bills when you're not interested/financially not well off?
Woman here. To me It's not about money. It's about the signal they send out.
I feel splitting bills means a guy is not so interested and shows no appreciation of the time and effort you put in selecting an outfit/putting on makeup/traveling to the meeting location... That to me is a turnoff, unless they make up for it with showing genuine interest in the conversation/asking good questions/walking you to your car, etc.
It's less about money, as I tend to offer to pay for dessert or the next date.
Do other ladies feel this way too?
Guys, why would you split bills?
Edit: someone mentioned paying for their own so they don't feel they owe anything. Yes contradictory to my opinions above, I do feel slightly uneasy if someone else bought the food I ate, so I always offer to split, and pay for follow-up things (second date, dessert). If I absolutely don't want to see this guy again, I'll ensure I split the bill so I don't owe them anything. Most first dates are low key budget events, so I'd just like to see the guy offer and it makes me wonder about his interest if he doesn't as it shouldn't break a bank.
Edit 2: wow thanks everyone for your comments and thoughts. I like how divisive this topic seems to be. The mere fact this is still a debate in the 21 century is something.
Men: we certainly appreciate your putting in effort as well, to look presentable, to travel, and often to suggest the time and place. I always thank them for these things and compliment their humor or good grooming. And I get it, if you have to pay for Everything, it gets expensive, and how do you know she isn't just in it for a free meal, although I hope you're smart enough to suss that out pretty quickly.
Ladies: I think we should always offer to split. Nothing wrong with paying for your own consumption. But in a setting where everything is assessed to gauge interest, the guy offering to pay is one, hence my turnoff comment.
Someone asked why is the gesture/money used as a gauge, rather than the overall vibe, the conversations, the body language. Of course it's all the above. I've gone on to date guys who wanted to split on the first date because there were other things that went well. Why money though, even when it's usually a small amount? I guess as a woman, there's still that insecurity about when I'm having children and taking time off work and sleep deprived and all that, I want the ease of mind there's another responsible adult who can make sure my baby doesn't starve.
Now onto gender equality: I call myself a feminist and am all for it. Why do I still have such "backward" views? I can certainly afford a date but still want him to offer to pay before I offer to split. I spoke about makeup and outfit and travel. Until we're in a world where a woman doesn't have to worry about her safety, doesn't have to check whether the meeting place is in a safe public space, doesn't have to text her girlfriends when she gets home safe and assure them the guy is not a creep, doesn't have to watch the uber driver when it's dark and she's drunk, until we have closed the gender pay gap, until humans really value the intellectual connection and the conversations they had rather than each other's appearances or whether she's attractive or not, until we don't turn on the TV and see 90% of the political and business leaders are men... Then, no, we don't have gender equality yet, and I'm still entitled to expect double standard.