Tips for the “what are we” conversation?

Hi y’all, looking for advice for having the “what are we” conversation/defining the relationship. I (22F) started talking to Avery (24NB) in early December from tinder, we did stop talking a couple times earlier on just due to holiday busyness then the start of the new semester but met up for the first time in February and for the second time this past weekend. We’ve been talking for a while but only met up twice which makes me especially hesitant to have the conversation. We talk pretty much everyday now, our conversations are never really flirty though we’re both neurodivergent so that might factor into it. The most we’ve done is hug, I wanted to kiss them when I was leaving last time but their family come home sadly.

We honestly haven’t even had a conversation about what we’re looking for (we mostly talk about our hyperfixations or special interests lol). Avery knows I graduate (hopefully) in May and that I’ve applied to grad programs in two other provinces, so I would assume they realize I am leaving our town in May but we have not talked about me leaving. I am down to just enjoy each other’s presence until I have to leave, but with how slow things are progressing and how fast my graduation approaches, I feel like we should probably have a direct discussion about it. This is especially feeling timely as one of my classmates asked me to go with them to a drag show tomorrow. It’s not explicitly a date, but I have a feeling she likes me so things might get romantic. Since me and Avery aren’t official, it shouldn’t be wrong of me to go on a date with someone else, but I do feel I should at least initiate the conversation. I have never had this conversation before, have never officially dated anyone and only had sex twice lmao so my inexperience is making me anxious for how to go about things. Any advice would be appreciated!!