Am I right to feel disrespected when I tell someone I just want to be friends, but they keep doing things like calling us hanging out a "date" or asking for a kiss?

I've never been good at setting boundaries and I've gotten into some pretty bad situations in the past because of that. I've been working with my therapist to get better at it, and I've improved my self-respect which has helped. But I still suck at navigating these kinds of situations.

I'm currently dealing with this with two different people right now and it's stressing me out.

One person I've befriended said they had a crush on me and asked me out and I told her I'm not looking for a relationship but want to be friends and we can hang out as friends. Had a nice enough time, but at the end she referred to it as a date and asked if she could kiss me. I said no but it was difficult for me to get past feeling bad and just say no, which kinda scares me because my inability to say no got me into some deeply traumatic situations in the past. Am I right to feel like my boundaries were crossed and disrespected, considering I explicitly said I just wanted to be friends?

It's an almost identical situation with the other person, I thought we were becoming friends but then they started talking about dating, I said I just want to be friends and would want to hang out as friends. We're planning to go out soon but she referred to it as a date again, and it's stressing me out. Like I know "friend dates" is a thing I've heard before, but it feels like a very specific word to use when I just said I didn't want to date her.

I'm neurodivergent and really struggle with managing people's emotions and expectations, and part of me is really frustrated with myself because I don't know how to handle these situations well and it feels like once again I'm letting other people's problems become my problems.

Any advice is really really appreciated, it's hard for me to trust myself ❤️