Feeling alone and betrayed by my father and older sister

It’s hard getting into frights with your parents when they are older because you just feel bad for them. 5 days ago my sister told my dad that I was too loud and that she had to sleep at her boyfriends house down the street. When my dad came home he slammed open my door and called me every name in the book, said he would smash my tv, and called me lazy and unemployed. The thing is that I couldn’t even get in a word to defend myself. I was confused and said I didn’t even know my sister left to sleep at her bf’s and that usually she just texts me or tells me to lower my tv. But my dad just kept talking over me and said he doesn’t care what excuse I have and that I’m disrespectful and disgusting. My ex then came over right away (we’re friends) to console me and my dad looked at him and said “she’ll be alright buddy, she’ll forget about this”. I was so mad that I drove to the USA border n crossed it and drove to the state of New York to be with my mom. I stayed at my moms for a few days and now I just came back. My dad and sister were blocked on everything. When I came back they both were acting like everything was normal. Usually on Saturdays just I accompany him to dinner and hang out with him since he has nobody else to spend his time with. I do it as a nice gesture because I feel bad for him. He asked me ofc if I can go out to dinner with him and I said no. I said I don’t want to be around you. He just said okay and asked my sister and her boyfriend to join him. I feel bad that I have tk do this to him but clearly from what he said to my ex, he thinks that I will just get over his abusive outrages. I’m so mad. I was never given an apology and I have to just be okay with that? On the flip side I’m also mad at my sister because obviously what she said to my dad was amped up because I didn’t deserved to be yelled at or degraded like that and she knows how he is and he’s done this multiple times. She also could have text me or came to my room to tell me to lower the volume instead of making a wedge between me and my father and making be fall into a depression. I am mad and sad. I don’t know what to do. I feel like nobody respects me in this house. When my parents divorced I replaced all the duties my mother once did and I cook and clean after these people but nobody appreciates me. I’m trying to be cold and distant but it makes me feel so devastated and sad. If I got an apology it would never have to be this way but it seems like the only option I have.