Why do people act like Korra losing her connection to her past lives was her choice?

I mean she was literally kidnapped by some of the strongest bender in the world who had everything prepared to take her down, she was poisoned and her avatar state was activated by the poison and was so close to death she lost her connection to her past lives. I keep hearing people say "Korra got rid of her past lives" no, Zander got rid of it