Finally I did the right thing!! I didn’t deserve that! M34 F33 story
Well, I had posted several things over many occasions about my strained marriage.
I am happy that I am setting those boundaries that I should have set long back. Because of this, I am being criticised heavily but that’s okay, I can listen and give back than tolerating abuse in the name of marriage. I am done! I am done tolerating abuse and now that I am giving it back I am the villain according to my husband.
To give u a glimse of what happened. 1. My husband is a mumma’s boy who needs validation from his mother no matter how pathetic that woman is. She verbally abused my dead father, asked for dowry in the name of gifts, humiliated my family and taunts me excessively. Initially I thought she does this bcz ours was a love marriage. But now, 5 years later I don’t take that shit anymore thus according to her I am separating her son from her and I am not a good DIL.
He is a coward, spineless man child who does nothing when his mother says I am a characterless women and I am getting good hikes bcz I sleep with my mgrs. Well, I am an mba. I think hike n all happens with everyone. So when I questioned him why he didn’t say a word he was like I know my mom is wrong but why are we discussing her and shut me up saying I shouldn’t guve any importance. So when I didn’t give any importance apparently he is still upset bcz his mom stopped talking to him as I don’t massage her ego. So he blames me that bcz of me she is away from him. I don’t know what kind of mother does this.
That woman is all about money, power and position and her son is the puppet. So basically I am the outsider who created problems in teh family dynamics. Now that I am setting boundaries, I am called a whore, egoistic bitch, career focused and what not!!!
Acc to my husband gifts shouldn’t be thoughtful. It should be like good expensive clothes, iphone or macbook. But I should celebrate the little things he does. Basically a hypocrite. But when I call this out loudly I am the bad person. Yes, he the most expensive gift I ever received was an apple watch, otherwise chocolates and flowers which I celebrated like anything. For me, little things matter but unfortunately for him money mattered.
I had enough. When I told him I want to live separately he said several things which is okay. What I was not okay with is him saying if u go then I won’t care if something happens and will drift emotionally apart. I said if u loved me then U wud do everything to keep me with u. His next reaction was what fantasy world are u living in? Men treat their wives like servants that’s how marriage works, my friends do the same and they are happy. I don’t know who these friends are!!
I was slapped on several occasions. He said sorry but never changed his behaviour. Now when I am calling that behaviour out he gets frustrated. He says he is not sensitive. So I asked how are u selectively sensitive about ur mom but not about me? Then what, I am crazy, bitter etc. so I asked who made me this person?? I was loving caring but u married me for convenience of money, bcz I contributed for his expensive experiences and gifts like car etc.
Yes to add on, my husband earns less than me since beginning, but it never mattered. But I am the whore and the bitch who is with my narcissistic MIL’s son bcz of their money!! Irony!!
I am happy that finally I know my worth. Sorry men if I hurt ur ego that how I can be crazy and do something like this. But I do the care any more!!! I am done with taht shit and I am not a worth this kind of marriage. I deserve a man who is kind and nurturing or don’t need any man at all than to settle down with an abusive man who only loves his narcissist mother and needs money and convenience from me. So tell me, who is wrong? The third wheel or both of us??