My husband hates our boy kitty, any advice?

Me and my husband adopted a girl and a boy litter mates when they were 10 weeks old, they are now 2 and a half years old. The problem I'm having is that although they are both good cats my boy cat, Franklin is naughty and makes my husband go into orbit with his bad behaviors.

Frankie is a gentle sweet boy who is amazing with our 2 year old daughter. He's a big luvbug but he's always into absolutely everything! These behaviors include chewing plastic,(my fake plants look like Swiss cheese!). He will constantly be under your feet tripping over him, he jumps on the tables, counters and furniture despite being told no. I love my boy but he's honestly not the brightest bulb in the bunch. He's up on my dining room table and I say "Frankie! Get down!" And I'll put him on the floor. Two minutes later he's up again and looking at me like "hi mom.. love you!" He also constantly claws the back of my husband's couch in his man cave (only when I'm home). He shreds cardboard boxes and paper bags like a beaver, knocks things over and goes everywhere he shouldn't . He steals my daughter's toys and chews them. He has even gone as far as stealing things out of guest's open purses.

I have done things in the past to try and solve the issues like putting a vertical scratching post in the room where he scratches the couch and kitty caps on his claws so he can't damage the couch but that only lasts a short time before they start to fall off. I've brought him to the vet to check his teeth and make sure there's nothing physically wrong and she cleared him and said it's behavioral. I make an effort to play with him and shower him with love and affection everyday, but my husband HATES HIM!!! I think he thinks he's doing it on purpose? He doesn't want anything to do with him because he's so naughty. He definitely sees how sweet he is with our daughter but is so stubborn that he won't even pat him!! Even when our daughter took his hand and told him "dada pat fankie!"

This creates a ton of tension between us because he gets mad at me when the cat acts out. He feels like he should be able to relax in his home without having to deal with him. I think he's overreacting and needs to chill but he's so angry every time.

Anyways looking for help figuring out how I can repair their relationship and get Franklin to stop being quite so naughty. I love both of my boys and I'm not giving up until they're friends!