partner’s parents found out we moved out of the house and it was chaotic
Just want to get this off my chest. As what the title says, partner and I are now renting together. We may be living paycheck to paycheck but we are very much happy, at peace, and also excited to welcome our little one this year.
For context: His family lives in the states. Yung house nila dito, naiwan sa kanya. Because it was only him back then who’s living in their house dito sa pilipinas, his mom’s sister (tita) asked if she and her husband could temporarily stay in their house to save rent and other bills (no kids). Dahil sobrang laki nung bahay, his parents allowed them to stay. She requested also to take the master’s bedroom in exchange of paying 50% of all the house bills and would cover the groceries including sa partner ko.
Few months later, yung cousin naman ni partner asked to stay na rin sa bahay nila since marami ngang rooms and they have nowhere to live. They have 4 kids and both his cousin and her husband have no jobs until now— almost 5 years.
His mom allowed them to temporarily stay, yung dad nya medyo skeptical na kasi nga sobrang dami na ng tao sa bahay. Yung set-up same lang as before, both tita ni partner and parents ni partner hati sa bills. Yung tita nya sinama na rin sa grocery budget yung isang family, mind you 4 kids can be a lot lalo na sa araw-araw na expenses at dun sa dalawang bata na araw-araw milk and diapers. Monthly electricity bill nila went up from 10k a month to almost 22k a month. Partner also usually eats out and uuwi lang to sleep.
When I got pregnant this year, his parents suggested na I stay muna with him so I don’t have to travel ng matagal back and forth from our house to my workplace. Partner and I are working but our combined monthly salary would only be more or less 55k.
I lived with him for almost 3 months and not a single day hindi ako umiyak dahil sa extended family nya sa bahay. Tita nya always nagpaparinig na may bago nanamang palamunin sa bahay and nagagalit dahil sobrang laki na nung kuryente nila. I only have my phone and laptop with me and umuuwi lang rin to sleep. Everytime rin nauubos yung groceries nila, nasakin rin yung blame dahil natatakot yung mga batang kuha ng kuha ng pagkain sa pantry mapagalitan kaya ako yung tinuturo ewan ko ba dahil siguro parati akong wala sa bahay. I also order during the weekends dahil pagod na rin magluto and sa workplace rin ako kumakain during the weekdays bfast to dinner. Same rin kay partner. If we order naman, ilang beses na kami napag sabihang selfish kasi dapat pag mag o-order ng food para sa lahat.
Nagagalit rin tita nya sa akin and will always confront me dahil ang dumi-dumi raw ng bahay, hindi daw ako naglilinis. Pahiga-higa lang daw ako. When in fact, yung kalat galing sa mga bata at dun sa pinsan ni partner na tv at cellphone lang alam. I clean on Saturdays pag walang tao sa morning, maya-maya ang dumi na nanaman.
Isang gabi, nag chat yung tita nya na umuwi na daw ako sa amin at isama ko na lang daw si partner. So that’s what we did. The next day we moved out. Nung nalaman ng parents ni partner, umiyak yung mom nya and asked us to move back in kasi raw it’s his house as much as his parents house. Bakit raw umalis yung anak nya sa bahay and chose to live in a small apartment. His dad was also mad kasi inangkin na yung bahay. Right now, galit na galit yung mga tao sa bahay dahil sinungaling daw kami and drama ng drama online.
But moving out was the best decision we ever made. Kami dalawa lang nagtutulungan and so far kinakaya and masaya kami.