Fellas, are there things about women you’re jealous of?

My husband just told me he’s jealous that I can hug my friends in public for as long as we’d like to without strangers making awkward comments. For context, my husband has some wonderful long-term friends that feel like brothers for him. And they live far away so we don’t get to see them nearly as often as we like. But the last time we picked one of these friends up from the airport, my husband bear-hugged his friend while I hugged the friend’s wife. These hugs were probably 3-5 seconds each. A boomer dude walked by us and said something about “brokeback mountain” to my husband and his friend, while completely ignoring the fact that the wife and I had hugged for the same amount of time.

My brother has told me he’s jealous that women don’t have to assuage anyone’s fear about us when we’re out in public. My brother is an incredibly gentle soul with mostly female friends and is absolutely the guy to call someone a Lyft if she needs a safe way home, watch someone’s glass at a bar if they leave it unattended, give someone a heads-up if a guy has been watching them, etc. I’ve seen multiple women over the years pretend they’re hanging out with my brother and me as a way to get away from somebody following them. My brother just gives off “safe” vibes. But it still breaks his heart that he has to clarify that he is, in fact, safe. It’s like he has to atone for the horrors of other men. And that breaks his heart.