No intimacy in Marriage
Not sure what to do. My wife and I have been married for 8 years and we are in our early 30’s and we have a toddler. We are a great team, we get along well and are great parents however my wife does not desire intimacy with me (prior to our marriage she desired intimacy)She states she finds me attractive and loves me but does not want sex or any kind of intimacy such as kissing. My wife has extreme anxiety, depression, trauma (deaths in the family) and physical pain when it comes to having sex (currently in counseling). She expresses that she isn’t happy with herself so how could she be happy with me. This has pretty much been consistent in our 8 years of marriage. Which makes me very sad because I have given her time, supported her and have tried very hard in these 8 years to build a romantic connection where we can both be happy. We have compromised on sex once a week which she states is unreasonable and most couples don’t have sex that much. When it comes to having sex it seems it is very disconnected and she essentially just rolls over. I am currently going to counseling to become the best version of myself but I just don’t know what to do anymore. I don’t want to leave my wife but I am very unhappy being in a relationship where there is no intimacy. Any advice or different perspectives of the situation would be greatly appreciated.