Anyone else think that they got into domme women bcs they just want attention?

Ive been thinking about why and how i came here,ofc typical boy story never got attention from girls etc etc,but not every boy thats goes through that turns this way,ofc theres many factors at play,i have come to the conclusion that at least for me the "domming" aspect is only secondary,if i were in a relationship where there is little to no affection and we are only together because we share a kink or a fetish,would we really like each other? Im not sure what im saying here is obvious to most people,but i feel like i misunderstood how people even get to enjoy being with each other,i guess what im trying to say is,domming is worthless unless you two like each other besides that,idk i lost my train of thought