finding an apartment without security

in my current flat the security is the #1 stressor that I have. even in my hostel the wardens were chill. and if I reached late I could just walk through the gate. here, they close the gates at 12(earlier if they want to sleep) and then get annoyed with me if I reach late or have to wake them up to open the gate for me.

they also made up this new rule also that males cannot stay over. my friends came to study once and this one security threatened one of my friends that if he didn't leave by 10pm, he'd come inside the building to throw him out. we thought he was just kidding but he actually rang the bell at 10pm and said "entha? povanille?". this is in a posh apartment in panampilly nagar, my rent is way too high to deal with this shit 🥲

at this point I feel harassed by them and want to leave ASAP. how do I search for apartments without sadhacharnmaar? I know about facebook groups, but this current flat I found through a facebook group and it was advertised with no restrictions. i think part of the problem is I'm the only person living here who's 20, everyone else are 30- above, so the security guards feel comfortable openly being rude to me. are there specific areas in kochi where mostly young people would be staying also? im open to any ideas 🥲