Is the community easy on Jess because he's hot?

As a guy who has watched the full show MANY times, I have to see Jess as a total prick. Prior to revamping his personality in Philly, which is well after his relationship with Rory, he was a total dick. "He bailed on [her] twice" (according to Rory speaking to Lane). Definitely once, but in general he was a dick to her. And then there was "Kyle's bedroom."

I think that the community, mostly female, are way too easy on Jess because he's so hot - in polls WAY ahead of Dean. As a guy, I find Dean the hottest, but maybe that's because I'm tall and codependent. I won't say I don't have my own preexisting issues that get caught up on the judgment.

But Jess is objectively a terrible boyfriend, on many counts. Yet there's a strong #teamjess following (yes, I know he gets better, way after the fact, and wastes that self-betterment on toxic love bombing). He's more interesting than the other guys, more book-read, more music-savvy, and those things matter to Rory, but they don't make up for being a total dick as a boyfriend, shared interests be damned.

Is it all really because he's so hot? Is that the spell he casts over the fandom?