It feels like there's no room for nuance

Whenever I see a discussion about representation in video games, it seems to be the default case that there are only two possible sides:

• "I'm not a bigot, but..."
• If you don't like this, you're a bigot

Instead of explaining my position, I think it's better if I illustrate it:

Gay characters would not break my suspension of disbelief in KCD2 (haven't played it yet, waiting for hardcore mode)

A black character would not either

A large number of poc or gay/lesbian characters would break my suspension of belief

If the game were set in Prague, my suspension would widen. If it were set in Florence, anything goes.

A full-blown woman PC like Theresa would not break my suspension of disbelief

A full-blown woman PC with the same range of combat abilities like Henry would

If the woman PC had Gwendoline Christie as a character model and was a noblewoman from a military household, my suspension would widen

To put it simply, all I ask is that fictional narration is internally consistent as well as consistent with the genre material. Perhaps most people say that and come to different interpretations of what that means. But if I said I think the entire cast of Macbeth can be black but Margaret of Anjou can't, who would actually listen to my reasons without making ideological assumptions?