Impossible to get things going! Do you find the same?

I am a female in her late 20s from the UK, so I am ideally seeking responses from women in the category.

I am using Bumble in Incognito mode to avoid being shown to people I know IRL who I do not particularly want to see me on the app.

4 weeks in and I am absolutely fed up. I have met two guys, one who kicked me out of his house on the 4th date because I refused sex. The second barely makes any effort for a second date after telling me he is interested - he has suggested meeting up to ‘cheer me up ;)’ > it comes across as completely unserious to me.

All the other matches I make (which are like 5 for every 50 I like) don’t message me first.

I would say (and I get that I could be biased) I am attractive with a good body and a balanced dating profile. I am also verified to affirm I am not a catfish.

Are you more successful with the app? Do you message guys first? Do you find yourself having to chase men down? Are we supposed to give up sex as early as the fourth date in spite of ‘whenever the time is right’?

I am absolutely fed up and I feel like I am at my whits end with searching for someone.