Hubby gaslighting me

So I suppose the title makes it sound awful- and maybe it is. We went through a miscarriage at 10 weeks with our first baby. He was ALL in on the first pregnancy. Every craving, every symptom, talking to the baby, rubbing my non-existent bump, etc etc. With this pregnancy he gaslights me on any symptoms and almost refuses to acknowledge it.

For one example- I bled at 6 weeks and it was a decent amount of blood. I woke him up and wanted to go to the ER. He said “can’t it wait? What will they even do if you’re miscarrying- likely nothing.” And then eventually took me in. He said it’s because he was scared and didn’t want to go through another miscarriage.

Another example- if I crave something or I’m too nauseated by the thought of a food to eat it, he’ll say I’m wrong. Ie I wanted chick-fil-a bbq sauce rather than mesquite flavored specialty sauce. We were standing in the grocery isle and I told him I knew the flavor of chick-fil-a would work and since it was the only thing I had eaten that day, I didn’t want to spoil it with a sauce I may or may not like. He argued that his sauce choice was better and I could “choose to be picky” but he knew mesquite sauce was better.

I spent an hour throwing up and I knew a ginger ale would help. I love soda and bubbles always help an upset stomach. He told me he wouldn’t go across the street for one because I hadn’t had enough water (two Stanley’s full) and I didn’t need it. I argued that I wanted to feel better and said I’d go get it. He said no and that it wouldn’t help the baby.

My biggest complaint is that when I was 8 weeks and he would not let me tell family. I am hours away from mine but he wouldn’t even let me tell his mom. He travels for work and I just wanted someone to know in case something happened while he was traveling. He told a coworker but wouldn’t let me tell him mom.

I’m so frustrated.