AIO for Feeling undervalued every single birthday

Hi, I wanted to know if anyone has ever felt under appreciated in their relationship. I grew up in a family where birthdays are important and he knows it. Today is my birthday.. I wake up and he’s not in bed so I’m thinking maybe he’s planning something or making me breakfast. Turns out he’s just sleeping in the other room. Then he’s on his phone all morning and I think maybe he’s making me a cute post on social media so I ask him what he’s doing. He tells me he’s on the group chat with his friends. I end up crying every single year on my birthday. We have two kids , one who is 3 months old. I just had her. You would think I would at least get some appreciation the day of my birthday. I turn 29 today, and the highlight of my day is my free Starbucks. I know social media is bad for this but I see all these girls getting balloons and decorated rooms and surprises on their birthdays and it’s just never me. And yes I’ve communicated it. One year since we’ve been together (6 years total) he completely forgot about it so I said nothing till someone in his family’s group chat wrote happy birthday so he got reminded. Anyway I’m just so tired of crying on my birthdays.. I devote my life to the kids, I never take time for myself and it makes me cry just writing this. I never ever do anything for myself so you would think I could just get some kind of small attention the day of my birthday. Rant over