AIO by being frustrated at my gf's constant demands?

Hi Reddit. I've been together with my gf for 3 months, it has been long distance the whole time which has been very difficult as you can imagine, especially for a relationship just starting out.

There's been a lot of arguments, ups and downs already. I broke up with her once even, because I thought both her and I needed to spend some time alone before heading into a relationship. I've only ever been in 1 relationship and she has had a few.

I'll try to keep it as short as possible. My gf has a constant need for validation. And she will demand things of me to achieve this, if my assessment is correct. I'll give you some scenarios.

Scenario 1: gf complains about the fact that I am not having sex with her, saying she's gonna 'die' without sex, or that she needs to get it soon. She's complained about this multiple times. I've made it clear to hef that I'm waiting until I at least know her for a little longer before we go all the way. So in that sense, maybe we shouldn't have gotten into a relationship so fast (since ive only known her for 4 months). I don't think I love her yet, and I want to have sex only after I fall in love. She thinks differently, she says it's just sex and not too much importance should be placed on the act itself. We have some different values here, and it's led to some less-than-ideal situations where I've had to turn her down during intimate moments and it has been a bit awkward, not because I don't like her but because I simply want to wait a bit. Is that so wrong?

Scenario 2: she demands that I flirt with her like she's not already my gf, and that I'm still trying to 'get' her. I feel like I do flirt with her whenever we meet up, I try to tease her or 'bully' her in a fun way, or make weird jokes here and there to lighten the mood. Maybe I'm not the best flirt? I'm not sure. I hold her hand, I kiss her, I look her in the eyes, I poke fun at her, I do things for her. When I ask her about what she means when she says this, the answer is always 'i shouldn't need to tell you that, you're a man', or some other lines along that train of thought where she can't reveal the answer to me because I should know.

Scenario 3: she wants me to get her a 'promise ring'. I didn't even know what this was, which was a little embarrassing on my part, but apparently you give it to someone as a pre engagement ring. We haven't even said the magic words to each other, and she expects a promise ring. I feel like it's a little unfair? To be honest, this is another consequence of heading into the relationship too quickly.

Scenario 4: she says I don't try to make her horny. She says she wants me to act like I REALLY want her. For example, if she backs away from a kiss she wants me to pull her back in, I can do that not a problem. But I'm wondering if it's a case of me just not being attractive to her? Is that a sad thing to assume? I try my best with foreplay etc, obviously sometimes there has been times where I've not been that horny and then it shows, but generally speaking I really care about satisfying her. Not sure where I'm going wrong.

Scenario 5: she sends me something on Instagram, a meme, and says something along the lines of 'i wish I could be treated like this' or 'when will I finally get princess treatment'. And this pattern has happened a lot, where she makes it known that I read how unsatisfied she is, but then claims that it's just a meme and that I shouldn't take things too seriously.

How should I be taking all this? It's hard to navigate everything. When I said 'maybe I'm just not what you want/need' she said 'yeah just give up without even trying, stay the same, don't change, I'll probably get bored eventually anyway'. Am I wrong in taking that to heart?