Abyg kung hindi ako nag rereply sa relative ko kapag nag cchat lang sila kapag may kailangan?

hi, everyone. im 18 (f) so eto na nga I started working when I was just 17. I took on various jobs simply to earn my own money because I couldn't rely on my parents anymore (My father was still working) and I could see how hard he was struggling to provide for our family. So, I made the decision to start working to help support him and my siblings. Fast forward to July 2023, I was fortunate enough to land two stable jobs that helped me a lot, allowing me to become financially independent and no longer depend on my parents. I was able to provide for my father and siblings, even if just a little. When my relatives found out that I was earning four digits weekly and five digits monthly, I helped them out a few times. But even after that, I didn’t receive any thanks palaging may side comment na "eto lang?" "baka naman" and etc na talagang nakakapag pagalit sakin.

I’ve been relied on for whatever I can give, and they always manipulate me based on the things they did for us in the past. Don’t get me wrong, I’m thankful for those things, even though they pressured me to work and get them out sa buhay na sila mismo ang pumili, even though it’s not my obligation. I’ve been feeling so pressured ever since I started working. Even before I started earning, they already had plans for my salary, like "help us with this, help us with that." tangina, is it my responsibility to support them? I still have my own family and dreams, but it feels like I’ve become the retirement plan for my entire family. I can’t refuse because I’d be seen as the bad one. I can’t speak up because I’d look like the selfish one. It’s gotten to the point where I’m the one providing for their daily food. I’m just 18, and I also want to live the way I want to. I want to study properly, just like everyone else, but it seems like that’s not going to happen because they’re all relying on me now.

But the thing is, mali ba ako? Am I ungrateful or selfish? Is it wrong if I don’t reply to them anymore, or if I don’t always say yes to the decisions they make for me? Am I being greedy if I stop following what they want me to do? ako ba yung gago?