Adoptees: What, if anything, do you wish you could ask your biological parents?

Hello, and thank you for reading. I'm looking for gentle advice (please no "nothing, I hate my abandoners" type stuff, I already hate myself more than you could ever imagine for what I did to my child).

My daughter is nearly 13 now, and while we are in an "open adoption", her AM is extremely guarded and jealous and Ive really only had maybe 20 minutes of time with just her and I, even though we get together 3-6 times a year. Because of this, she's never really had a chance to ask any questions about her adoption. Once , her sister did ask in front of everyone "why did I give name away, didn't I love her?", but that's the extent of it.

I am dealing with some increasing and uncertain health issues. I hate more than anything the idea that something could happen and I would never have the chance to answer questions my daughter may have about her adoption or anything she would like to know. I want to record a video and write a letter that may touch upon these things, in case the worst were to happen.

So, my question for adoptees is, what are questions you might want answered? What other things might I include and also just as importantly, what not to include ?

I want to preemptively thank anyone who answers, and more generally to thank all of the adoptees who do so much to educate on a constant basis here. I have learned so much and more importantly , I know your efforts have also helped many APs learn how to be better parents to kids who were adopted. You don't have to do that, and it's exhausting I am sure, so I thank you.